A lot of people have trust issues but you can’t blame them, some jerk in the past (both male and female) probably did them strong ‘tin’ and ruined it for everyone in their future. Paranoid girlfriends weren’t always paranoid, they were once sweet but after dating a serial cheater they tend to believe every man is a cheat. Same with rape victims, they tend to get scared of intimacy and start to have trust issues. The questions below can aid you to know where you stand when it comes to trust issues.
DO YOU EVEN TRUST YOURSELF?
If there’s anyone that you should be able to trust with your life, it’s yourself. If you’ve been screwed over that many times that you begin to doubt everything and everyone, however, you may not even be able to do that. Your gut feelings are ignored or over analyzed because you barely believe yourself and that’s a horrible thing.
IS THERE ANYONE YOU TRUST AT ALL?
If you have trust issues, there’s a good chance that you don’t trust anyone at all. Boyfriend, friends, even your family could have red flags all over your radar. When it comes to being lied to, not everyone you know will feel the need to deceive you.
DO YOU BRING UP ISSUES FROM PAST RELATIONSHIPS?
If your new boyfriend is, for all intents and purposes, perfect for you but you still have this feeling that he’s as shady as the last guy you dated then you may have trust issues. It’s okay to be guarded with your heart when you’ve been seriously wronged, but it’s also important to remember that not all guys are the same.
DO PEOPLE HAVE TO WORK FOR YOUR TRUST?
For those with trust issues, it’s hard to let anyone in until they’ve earned it ten times over. A healthier way to go about things, though, is to assume that those who say they care actually do and would never betray you. Take on the motto “innocent until proven guilty” when it comes to trust and you’ll be better off.
HOW OFTEN DOES SOMEONE YOU TRUST BETRAY YOU?
If every relationship you’ve ever been in ended in disaster because of huge lies and betrayals, it’s safe to say that your trust issues aren’t there for no reason. If you’re betrayed by everyone you’ve ever loved, it’s hard for you to believe that anyone will respect you enough to tell the truth. That doesn’t mean they won’t, but you can’t see it.